Temper Tantrums

I created a blog quite sometime ago, and well posted once and that was that. Some experiences I've had lately have got me thinking that I need to blog more often, I decided these experiences are just to good to not share. The other day I had the worst day. It all started out at work on the play ground. I had so many kids that were in the words of so many older people " to big for the britches". After school was the book fair at the school and both of my boys were far beyond listening. Finally I told them if we cant behave were going home. Sure enough we went home. Well my Anakin decided he didn't want to go and was calling my bluff. He started to cry and finally had a full on temper tantrum. Ok now you would be lying if you said this has never happen to you with your kids and if you can honestly say thats never happen. Well I'm sorry you had easy kids because let my tell ya "its good for your personality" Finally after dragging him to the car and hoping someone would ask if I was kidnapping him, so I could say Yes and hand him over. (which no know one did). The temper tantrum goes on. I've decided that temper tantrum are a survival of the fittest. The temperer wants you to cave and give in, the temper handler has to prove their still in charge. Well in this case I was bound and determined that I was going to win. The whole way home my seat was being kicked and each scream was louder then the last. At this point I wanted to cave, I wanted to cry. But you know I couldn't all I could do at this point was laugh. That's right I laughed the entire car ride home. Finally I pull in the drive way and I believe there is no way to reason with a child throwing  a temper tantrum. The way I see it you have 2 choices. First being you can take yourself up to your room to finish your temper tantrum. Or Second choice I'll help you up stairs to your room to finish your temper tantrum. Sometimes were just not happy and that's OK. But there is no way you can reason with a child that upset, there is no learning opportunity for them, you cant talk to them because you're wasting your energy trying to scream over them. Which in return their screaming louder. Finally an HOUR later he comes down the stairs and ready to talk. Now as bad of a day that we might of had. I love these opportunity to talk one on one with by boys.  Anakin and I came to a wonderful understanding about how we should act in public and how we can express out feelings with out letting ourselves get that upset. The lovely part of the temper tantrum is its a huge energy drain on mom which both of my boys know that mean they have to do something for mom to give her back so of her energy. Anakin choose to clean the bathroom that night, which was so nice to be able to sit down and relax for 10 minutes. As I reflected on this later that night as I was trying to go to sleep. I thought you can't be serious and raise kids. You have to have a since of humor.